
Valentine's Day: It can be good or bad depending on the status of your personal life; if you’re with someone, it’s like Elysium; if you’re not, it’s like Tartarus – or at least the Second Circle of Hell, where all the elements collude and come together to keep you and your true love apart। The storm can seem unending। The ground effete for depravity of light. Your own hopes have become projectiles and used against you. It’s cold. You’re damp. And it’s useless, for the only thing that can warm and dry you is the one thing that has so hidden itself from you that it seems unreal, and unlikely to manifest in your life.
Don’t give up hope, no matter how many times it’s flung back into your face. It becomes a mockery only when you begin to express self-doubt; those whom chortle with Schadenfreude know not the nature of your storm, much less the power welled deep within you to overcome it. Hope won’t deface your loyalty to her. Love will soon reveal herself; even if it’s gotten dark, she’ll be your beacon in the night. So keep smiling at that girl. Keep waving at that guy. Keep doing the little things that seem futile to the casual observer – to you, too, if you begin to see through his eyes. Doubt can kill a dream, so never stop believing.
There are times, however, when resistance and insistence collide; conflicting desires make for the greatest friction: He does, but she doesn’t, or vice versa. It’s one of the most hurtful things one can experience, rejection, or the inevitability of rejection. It’s perplexing, for you believe to have said and done all the right things; but sometimes it’s not the words or actions as much as it’s the person saying and doing them. Maybe it has to do with one’s color. Avarice. Differing religious beliefs. Politics. Outward perception. Sexual orientation, even! Any one or number of petty things that can keep a person from experiencing one of life’s greatest bounties. Sometimes, though, a person just isn’t turned on by you – but that’s not an indictment on your character। The important thing to note is that there is nothing wrong with you, and that somebody out there, somewhere, wants you.
For those of you who have someone, today shouldn’t be any different than the other 364 days। Prostrate your love in the light of ALL days। Seek to consummate that love every night, not just the night of every February 14th। Celebrate what you have not just when the calendar deems it most appropriate. When you buy into the commercialism, you become its greatest commodity. Love is all but rendered superficial. Don’t be fake, please.
Sara Bareilles and Ingrid Michaelson asked whether love is alive. I’m here to answer that it is. Love lives in people. It breeds from our every, selfless action. Sometimes you can rain down upon a person enough love that you begin to grow on them. For the hopeful, this is their wish. And for those who’ve succeeded in doing so, don’t stop just because you’ve done so already; keep love alive by watering it with some of your own. To the single lot, that special someone is out there, don’t you stop believing. To the lovers, don’t stop loving. Happy Valentine’s Day, all! I love you :*